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What Order do Wedding Speeches Usually Go In?

What Order do Wedding Speeches Usually Go In?

The wedding reception is, without doubt, about the newlyweds and the fact they are in love. When the ceremony has come to an end, wedding days can rapidly change from dignified affairs to uproarious parties.

It is likely that the toast will be the last time the guests will all be seated and focused on one thing simultaneously.

The traditional order for wedding speeches goes like this.

  • Best man. The toast and accompanying speech are possibly the Best Man’s major responsibility for which he must prepare. He should introduce himself and explain his link to the couple. He should then be positive about his friend’s choice, before telling some acceptable truths that will raise a smile.
  • Maid of honor. The Maid of Honor’s contribution normally focuses on the bride and draws on their past experiences together.
  • The parents of either spouse. When one or both sets of parents host a wedding, they may like to say something to welcome the guests to the event. This toast tends to be quite quick.
  • The couple. Sometimes the couple together will opt to make a speech and accompanying toast, particularly if they themselves are hosting the occasion. The main purpose of any speech by the couple is to thank the people involved in the bridal party, as well as the families and the guests. 

The advice is that the wedding toast should be brief. Even when there is much to say, standing on your feet and talking for two to three minutes can feel like a very long time! The best speeches are not necessarily those that have been honed to perfection. The audience wants to hear a speech that evokes emotion.

The intention behind the main speech of the day should be to make everyone smile for the same reason and at the same time.

Everyone is bound to have their own preferences for who gives speeches, but no one should ever feel forced to give a toast.

When a lot of people would like to make a toast, think about arranging the more traditional toasts at various points during the wedding and keep the rest for the rehearsal dinner. This is when the groom's father (or the dinner’s host if different) tends to make his speech. Others who want to make a toast but are not going to be getting up at the wedding can also make their toast here.

Because fewer people will be attending, the speeches here can be longer and more involved.

This is a good opportunity for sweet, intriguing, surprising and hilarious stories related to the married couple. Some people will talk about their first impressions when they met the bride or groom. Others may talk about how the couple met each other. There may be people who can share childhood memories.

The speeches - whether heartfelt or hilarious- are what many people remember after the big day, so make them count.